At the beginning of the year, people write down resolutions, but they never achieve any of those goals; they write the same resolutions again as their New Year goals. I have seen some people get into relationships and break off and get into new relationships only to break up again. People fail in business, their studies, and many other things, and they fail again and again. They make the same mistakes over and over. The question is now, why do we find ourselves in the same predicaments all the time?
Sometimes we get hints about our decisions, but we choose to ignore them. People often regret their decisions when they’re already at a dead end. We regret not taking chances when we had an opportunity to do so. We have clues every time, but we choose to stay in bad circumstances and ignore those clues. In the end, we think about those clues and how we have let problems grow right in front of us until they are almost insurmountable. We fail to think of various other factors that could invariably affect the process and the end. We cannot foresee everything from the onset, but as you go you will realise the changes that need to be done.
However, if you do not sit down to reflect and rethink your decisions, you may continue on the wrong path, and you will never know when you need to adjust and readjust. Certain things pop up every day, things you had not anticipated or things that were hidden in the beginning. To guarantee your success, you need to reflect on how you are moving all the time. Every decision, reflect on it; rethink it.
During courtships, people notice certain things about their partners and the relationship. They notice things like compatibility, desired characteristics, and so on. However, when people notice undesirable traits, they ignore those things which may haunt them when they are at a divorce table because they realize that they had a choice before they got married. Still, they did not pay attention and reflect on their decision when they had a chance. Do not wait for the worst situation to happen for you to start reflecting on your decision. Once you decide on anything, keep on reflecting on it to guarantee your success.
When you decide to do a business, get into a relationship, or start a project, you have an image of the things you want. You make a blueprint for your vision, which becomes your model. This model should be your guide. Throughout the process, you need to go back to the plan and see if what you are doing falls in line with the plan. The model and the reflection should not be strangers; the two should not be too divorced; rather, they should resemble each other. Reflection does not only come in the end; rather, it is something you do continuously. It helps you to see the loopholes before it is too late.
Introspection, reflection is what we lack. We are good at planning projects and businesses, but when we realize that we are not making as much profit or benefit as we had anticipated, we quickly change the business or try another project. In business, there is what is called project/business assessment. It is taking a closer look at everything that directly or indirectly affects the business or project. It helps you to make the proper evaluation and come up with effective solutions. However, most people fail because they do not make a good and fair assessment in their projects. When you skip assessment, you are bound to fail, or that project is bound to flop because the assessment is an integral aspect of any successful project. It gives you a true picture of how you are performing in your business or project. Sometimes you think you are making a profit when you are running a loss. Do not wait until you reach rock bottom for you to start reflecting. Being able to do a thorough assessment will help you see the loopholes as well as your strengths. It helps you to improve certain things, remove or add other things to make you successful.
Likewise, in life, do not be quick to quit on what you do or continue doing the same things repeatedly without any positive change. Sit down and introspect. Often, we blame other people when things go wrong in relationships or partnerships when we are the ones to blame. We rush to the conclusion without taking a closer look at all the things happening around us. At times you need to sit down, go back to the drawing board and ask yourself if you have given it your best shot. If the situation you are in was your only option, what would you do or change to make it better? We often let go of our best opportunities because we always think that we have options.
The Johari window, a philosophical tool used to help people explore their personal and interpersonal relationships, clearly shows that there are aspects about ourselves that we do not know and others do not know either. There are also things that others know about us, but we do not know ourselves. Thus we need to sit down and look deeply within ourselves and find out those things. At times we spent most of our precious time looking out for the devil when we are the devils. We have to be able to accept our flaws and mistakes and correct them. Do not rush to conclude, do the assessment.
When you start anything, you plan, and you finish, you evaluate. However, the end of a thing is very important than the beginning. There is no conclusion or evaluation without assessment. That is why you need to be continuously assessing yourself for your progress to have a great ending.
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